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June 14th 2016. This is a day that I will remember for the rest of my life. It’s late in the day, we’ve had a long day at work. Locking up the house and turning out lights, I’m heading to bed. I walk into our bedroom to see Jessica, crying her eyes out. My heart immediately sinks into my stomach. “Are you okay??”

To understand what’s going through my head, you have to know our situation. You see, 12 days prior to this on June 2nd, we did an IUI. After 8 years of trying to have a child, we finally felt like we were making progress, and on June 2nd we did our 2nd IUI in the past 4 months.

“Are you okay??” She looked at me and no words came out, she just waived me over to her. Standing in the doorway to our bathroom, I rushed to be by her side. Still no words, she could only show me the test. It said “Pregnant”! My heart returned from my stomach and the tears began to flow from my eyes. We stood in our bathroom hugging each other and crying. We are going to have a baby!!

This is one of the most incredible feelings I have ever felt. You see, we have tried for so long. I have always tried to be a patient person, but there comes a point where you can only think, it will never happen. That all changed last fall when a new doctor told Jessica she knew what was the problem.

In August of last year, Jessica started going to a new lady-doctor, who specializes in fertility issues. We were nervous and somewhat pessimistic as to what this doctor would be able to do that we haven’t done in the past.

In our 8 years of not taking any preventative measure we tried many different things. It was in the 3rd year that we previously went to a doctor who specialized in fertility issues. They ran their tests on Jessica. They ran their test on me. The result? They told us they were feeling positive we could make an IUI procedure work for us. So that’s what we did.

The procedure came, we waited, and then were told the bad news. It didn’t work and “we’re not even sure it would ever work.” Jessica’s body wasn’t producing eggs like it should, and my “boys” weren’t swimming like they should.

What!? You were feeling positive about it a couple weeks ago. This doctor turned out to be no help. We were devastated. So, at that point, we figured if it’s meant to be, it will happen. We will not prevent it and we’ll see what happens.

Over the next 5 years many friends, family, and co-workers are all having babies. It’s hard. Hard to force a smile in front of the pain you feel in your chest and swallow the lump in your throat.

Regardless of those thoughts, you are happy for those folks and push through the thoughts.

We constantly weighed our options. Do we try adoption? We are open to that, as there are many babies and children out there who are hoping and praying for someone to give them a proper home. We are a husband and wife hoping and praying for a baby.

Fiscally, we were not in a place to go that route. So again, we wait to see what life brings our way.

So, back to August of last year. At the suggestion of a close family friend we visited her doctor. This new doctor helped when the friend and her husband ran into troubles. Now we are back to nervous and pessimistic.

This doctor right out of the gate was all-in. She started doing test and our pessimism slowly began to turn to optimism. In November Jessica had a procedure that would hopefully clear up the main issue she was experiencing.

The procedure was a success so we sat with the doctor and outlined the next steps. Jessica would begin taking clomid and through those fertility treatments we would try IUIs again. In March, Jessica began taking the medicine. The doctor wanted to do a test month to see how her body handled it. It went perfectly. So in April, we tried our first IUI in over 4 years. We were hopeful. But unfortunately, it did not work.

It’s okay though, these things take time. If everyone got pregnant on the first try, this world would be a lot more crowded. We missed the timing to start things for the next cycle. So, in mid-May, we started again. Medicine, followed by an IUI on June 2nd. This is the day you were conceived.

We just didn’t know this yet. So we waited…somewhat impatiently. The following week, we go to the doctor for a follow-up to check Jessica’s progesterone. The lab results would be back in 3-5 days. What?! More waiting. The next Tuesday rolls around and Jessica gets a call from the doctor that the numbers look good. She is a couple days away from when she would normally “start” so without me knowing, she took a test.

That was June 14th. This is the day we found out.

Here we are now, a few months in to this journey, sharing the news with the world of our little miracle. We, along with your Pawpaw and Gigi, Grammy and Pop-pop, Aunt Jennie, Uncle David, your cousins Aaron and Abbey, Uncle Billy, Aunt Summer and so many other people are incredibly excited to meet you.

Your mother and I are so excited to continue on this journey that will bring you into this world. We look forward to the next 7 months. We have waited a long time for you, but patience is a virtue, and you’ll be here soon enough.